34 replies to this topic

[Shampoo]

Wedding will cost a lot of money man

the divorce will cost even more

[Dunvegan]

I spent 5k on my wedding in February and received a lot of compliments - the photographer said it was one of the 'loveliest' he's been to and has asked to use the photos in his shop.

Then again, my parents offered to pay for catering and we had a family friend agree to decorate, as she was in that business. My husband also did not have to buy a tux, as he is in the military and so I wanted him to wear his Blues.

My sister paid 10-15,000 USD on her wedding. My brother and sister-in-law had a very private ceremony in TN for only a few thousand. All of my husband's siblings had weddings for under 10k, except one who had a lavish ceremony in Poland, where the wife was from -- and even then it was well under 40k.

Prices of weddings depend on where you live, of course. I lived in a more rural part of Michigan, an hour from Detroit and Flint, so prices were reasonable. If you live in Chicago, NY, or somewhere like that then prices skyrocket. If you can, though, try to downsize costs as much as possible. When the day comes, you're so focused on actually getting married that you don't notice any of the other details. I remember nothing about what my wedding looked like, the reception, etc...but I can tell you with great clarity what my husband was dressed like and the fact that the one of the stripes on his uniform was tilted to the left by about three degrees.

We focused more on the future than on that sole date of the wedding - we wanted our house paid off four years after we bought it, which we're well on the way to doing. Aside from the house, we are in no debt and that brings more happiness than any single day ever can, especially considering monetary problems are the leading cause of divorce. If you can, you should definitely use the money towards other things (though if everything you have is paid off I suppose it doesn't matter).

If you're worried about what your guests will think, don't -- they're there to enjoy you in your moment of bliss If they're solely concerned about themselves, then they simply don't deserve to be part of your day.

Edited by Dunvegan, 15 September 2011 - 05:58 PM.

[Narcissa]

My friends wedding (the one I previously posted about) had her wedding this past weekend and it was absolutely lovely. In total it cost them about 14k with last minute expenses (guests inviting their friends who were NOT invited) and what not... Very gorgeous, very serene, everyone was happy. Except the bride, she flipped her shit about 20 hours beforehand but it was totally understandable. The groom and groomsmen rented their suits (within the wedding budget) and the bridesmaids paid for their dresses and shoes.

I still think 40k is absolutely an exorbitant amount to spend on a wedding. I know the food was a huge issue with extra peeps inviting their friends and whatnot so I'd take that into consideration. Unless your fiance is getting a 20k gown (and if she is, you've got bigger issues than the wedding...), I'd have a little sit down with her about the budget. Seems most people here with experience are pretty shocked with that price tag. Even converting it to the Australian dollar, that's still a lot, especially since the wedding planner thought so; she'd know the best out of anyone.

Edited by Narcissa, 15 September 2011 - 06:44 PM.

[iargue]

Am I the only one who realized this topic was just for him to brag about being rich?

[Dunvegan]

Am I the only one who realized this topic was just for him to brag about being rich?

...I had thought that initially and when I read the rest of the posts I thought that it was, for sure, the reason...then decided to give the benefit of the doubt and talk the OP out of this madness.

[Shampoo]

Am I the only one who realized this topic was just for him to brag about being rich?

that's something to brag about now?

[Frank274]

My friends sister got married over the summer and including the price of the dress, she spent around $1500 for the entire thing. Weddings don't need to be expensive, imo. If love doesn't involve money, then the wedding should be no different.

[Anisi]

I won't be paying more than $15000au for mine. I'd rather spend the rest on our house we are building or our honeymoon.

[chini]

I am getting married sometime either late this year or early next year to my love of 8 years. There won't be any fancy big or traditional wedding plans or anything like that, since I am still a student, and a pretty frugal person. We are planning on getting married at Voodoo Donuts in Portland instead of the courthouse and bringing up to maybe 5 total friends/family. Figure it would be something different.

I don't plan on spending more than $1,000.00 I am not the type to have a big wedding, nor do I really fantasize about it like most females do. Once my fiancee and I have our careers set we will be able to to finally afford a decent honey moon/anniversary type of event.

[ionlypostyoutubecomments]

Even though it is one time investment it matters a lot. Anyway good info provided, Thanks.