Here is my question to you:
Do you think having a friends with benefits EVER works out? I do NOT mean a fuck buddy. Here's the difference:
A fuck buddy is someone you just have sex with. The end.
A friend with benefits is an actual FRIEND. Someone who you enjoy or at least CAN spend time with. You're friends but you just also have sex with each other every so often.
So here's my question: What would it take for a friends with benefits to work out for you. In my opinion: it would take someone attractive, busy, who loved cuddling and someone whose personality I genuinely enjoyed but had a major issue that couldn't result in a relationship. e.g. They don't want kids. They're moving in a few months/years. They're a smoker/pot user. I don't agree with their upbringing/family values. Just to name a few.
I would need someone attractive for obvious reasons. I need someone whose personality I enjoy because I want to be able to at least TALK to the person after/before and maybe even just hang out and NOT have sex since sex is gross. And I need someone busy because I'm extremely busy and I can't have someone clingy/constantly bothering me. I'm not in a relationship. We're just friends with benefits. And I've learned the hard way the upbringing of the other person really matters and no matter what you do, you can't really change that. I have an aversion to only childs. Sowwy.
I've been told that this will never happen (which I'm honestly fine with) and that friends with benefits in general never work. Do you have any positive or disaster stories? Does someone ALWAYS end up falling for the other? What is on your potential criteria for an FWB?
P.S. Sex is still gross and this is all hypothetical.