I have been back from Iraq since January.
I got married before I left.
Now my wife tells me today over the phone that I should go stay at my friends house cause she does not know if she could be with me. I tell the fuck no, what you fucking think this is, YOUR HOUSE? I said" there is no way I am sleeping anywere else other than were I pay for US to live".
So anyway I'm sitting at my friends house with a suitcase full of my stuff. I wait for him to get off work and there I am. Leg cast and all, sitting on his porch. We go inside, and talk and have a few beers. My wife calls me, and like an idiot I answer. At this point I am scared to death. She has never done anything like this before. So she proceeds to tell me that she wants a devorse and BLAH BLAH BLAH. I mean one second we are fine, and the next second she is all crying and shit. Now I trying to be nice, tell he I love her and that this is a mistake and she is over reacting. That helps nothing. We get off the phone and I am BUMBED out. I am seriously crushed. I didn't know what to think. LUCKILY my phone dies. I don't have my charger neither. So me and a few buddies go to this local bar and we get HAMMERED and shoot some pool. I talk to a few chicks, start feeling a little better, but am still devastated. I get back to my buddies house and i call my voice mail to check it. What do you know, "Hi its Katie. Call me when you get this" and it was in a crying tone. So my soft ass calls her back and we talk. She starts bawling and all that happy horse shit. I stand strong and say she is right and we need a break. I made sure I told her I had a great time at the bar as she was home crying.
The trusting people part comes in like this.
The ENTIRE time this is going on my whole family and all my friends said just give it time, and don't talk to her for a few days. It didn't even take a few days, more like hours. I just could not bring myself to trust all those people. My anxiety was just too much.
So that brings me to another point. Since coming back from Iraq I have had really bad anxiety about everything and nothing. Anyone have any tips on how to deal with that?