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[kwaffle]

Hahaha. Yeah, I would be mad too. I like twizzlers and all though. I suppose girls in general do expect more for a 1 yr. If that's ALL he did for her, then yes, I'd be mad. That's just cheap. But it does show he listened.

For my boyfriend and I, we went to dinner at a casual dining place and had sex. I don't remember any exchange of gifts, though we may have. I was happy to be with him and all that, we're still together (3 1/2 years later), and I can't for the life of me even remember if we did presents.

[ShadowLink64]

I went for this talk and apparently they say men are expected to understand their hints

lol, not happening.

[iargue]

lol, not happening.

If their hints where anything close to hints, it might. But their passive agressive, double standard, I dont want this but I really want it, bullshit. Thats just stupid, and if they expect us to read their minds, they deserve nothing.

[sealonfire]

After your gf puts you to the test, her friends will put you through another test

[hahaman]

From what you can read in her post... Shes probably just shallow and wanted something expensive.

it's technically shallow, yea, but most girls are like that.

when they know to expect a gift, they have a dozen of possible scenarios. they ALWAYS expect the best scenario to come true. and when it doesn't, they're faced with disappointment, and they do NOT do well hiding their emotions when this happens. embarrassment, loneliness, disappointment, all manifest as anger in them

she's angry in this case because of the disappointment, nothing else. mostly u can solve the situation (at least for me) by just pointing out what i said above and asking her what exactly was she expecting, then talking to her about it. discussing about how weird girls are anywhere, in a magazine or on a forum, won't solve anything.. discuss it with HER, that's something this guy should learn

personally if i loved twizzlers i'd love a bucket of twizzlers. it's more practical than any ring or necklace and it fills me tummy and sweetens me tongue.

anyway in relation to the above, that's the whole point, she was expecting something better and she got something unexpectedly different. now why don't we apply that to daily life, and get her that bucket one fine day for no reason. she would then be expecting nothing but gets something in return. she'd scream in surprise and joy. same gift, different reactions . i'm serious

Edited by hahaman, 17 November 2009 - 05:47 PM.

[sealonfire]

You sound like a pro. *salutes*

[hahaman]

yea

to the untrained pre-pubescent guy they may seem illogical, but once u have one for a few years u start learning things

say u're walking down the street, next to her, and she suddenly wobbles for a sec seemingly losing balance on her high heels, then regains her balance and walks on. suddenly she's angry with everything u say, and she's FUMING.

the former would just argue the lack of logic. the latter would hug her and go 'it's ok, u didn't trip, it's ok calm down. don't worry i'm here.'. and these 2 reactions can turn situations both ways.

that's the difference.

[iargue]

it's technically shallow, yea, but most girls are like that.

when they know to expect a gift, they have a dozen of possible scenarios. they ALWAYS expect the best scenario to come true. and when it doesn't, they're faced with disappointment, and they do NOT do well hiding their emotions when this happens. embarrassment, loneliness, disappointment, all manifest as anger in them

she's angry in this case because of the disappointment, nothing else. mostly u can solve the situation (at least for me) by just pointing out what i said above and asking her what exactly was she expecting, then talking to her about it. discussing about how weird girls are anywhere, in a magazine or on a forum, won't solve anything.. discuss it with HER, that's something this guy should learn

personally if i loved twizzlers i'd love a bucket of twizzlers. it's more practical than any ring or necklace and it fills me tummy and sweetens me tongue.

anyway in relation to the above, that's the whole point, she was expecting something better and she got something unexpectedly different. now why don't we apply that to daily life, and get her that bucket one fine day for no reason. she would then be expecting nothing but gets something in return. she'd scream in surprise and joy. same gift, different reactions . i'm serious

I cant discuss anything with her, I dont know her. This was an FML I read. Silly.

[sealonfire]

truth hahaman.

I always make it a point to let the s/o know that I don't celebrate holidays because they are stupid. I love her every day of the week... and Valentine's day is just an excuse for lame ass boyfriends to try to make up for being so lame.

I'm not getting her flowers because I'm supposed to... or because it's Valentine's day. I'll get her flowers because it's Tuesday.... or because I was thinking of her... etc.

It's a fucking win/win/win/win/win situation.

But it you're doing this, wouldn't she expect something more during the holidays?

[hahaman]

I cant discuss anything with her, I dont know her. This was an FML I read. Silly.

discuss it with HER, that's something this guy should learn

silly.

[Hawk]

Yeah, I lol'd too.

x3

Maybe she should have told him what was upsetting her, and then she wouldn't be in that situation....

Games seem to be more fun for girls...The response he probably got back was, "OH, you know why I'm so upset!" or "Don't even get me started!"

[Ellcrys]

Long story short, its physically impossible to unrestand girls. If they allowed us to understand than they would have nothing to complain about. Girls should be able with any gift cause it shows the guy actually remmbered!

[jarviscocker]

dude... it's the game... that's how they work... regardless of if they will admit it or not.

They put you through a series of tests to ensure you are intellectual enough and responsible enough to be the father of their children/life time partner... it's like evolution.... but more pointless and annoying.

I'm sure since the end of rape being acceptable... women have been like this. At least in the courting stage.

lol at the idea of rape being acceptable having ended. please read up on rape culture.

and uh, i'll trade you some simple how smart/responsible are you testing in relationships to the fucking ridiculous amount of effort girls have to put into weight and appearance to even be seen as average or acceptable in terms of relationships.

alsooo, i'm pretty irrational behavior in relationships isn't unique to women. there's dudes who freak the fuck out if a girl is friends with another male, there's girls who forbid guys from having female friends because he might cheat on them, there's guys who don't understand why their girlfriend is pissed that they're skipping sex or relationship time to play world of warcraft constantly, and there's girls who get angry that they got a bucket of twizzlers for an anniversary present.

if they'd been dating for a year, i'd imagine the guy should probably have an idea of whether or not she takes anniversaries/holidays seriously or not. doesn't matter if she thinks twizzlers are the best candy ever, if she's into traditional anniversary stuff, it's a dumb gift. just like getting flowers or an expensive necklace for a girl who's a bit unconventional would be stupid. nice intentions, but clearly you're not really paying that much attention in the relationship, or feel that staying true to your personal outlook on anniversaries/holidays is more important than compromising and making your significant other happy.

[saif]

lol at the idea of rape being acceptable having ended. please read up on rape culture.

and uh, i'll trade you some simple how smart/responsible are you testing in relationships to the fucking ridiculous amount of effort girls have to put into weight and appearance to even be seen as average or acceptable in terms of relationships.

alsooo, i'm pretty irrational behavior in relationships isn't unique to women. there's dudes who freak the fuck out if a girl is friends with another male, there's girls who forbid guys from having female friends because he might cheat on them, there's guys who don't understand why their girlfriend is pissed that they're skipping sex or relationship time to play world of warcraft constantly, and there's girls who get angry that they got a bucket of twizzlers for an anniversary present.

if they'd been dating for a year, i'd imagine the guy should probably have an idea of whether or not she takes anniversaries/holidays seriously or not. doesn't matter if she thinks twizzlers are the best candy ever, if she's into traditional anniversary stuff, it's a dumb gift. just like getting flowers or an expensive necklace for a girl who's a bit unconventional would be stupid. nice intentions, but clearly you're not really paying that much attention in the relationship, or feel that staying true to your personal outlook on anniversaries/holidays is more important than compromising and making your significant other happy.

Good one~
lmao at guys who skipping sex time for warcraft... so true.
Sitting all day in front of the computer, pretty hard to get a hardon... especially when their gf's aren't that hot nor pretty.

[Elindoril]

Sitting all day in front of the computer, pretty hard to get a hardon... especially when their gf's aren't that hot nor pretty.

Last time I checked, it wasn't hard to find some porn to help with that.

[saif]

Last time I checked, it wasn't hard to find some porn to help with that.

Last time I checked, getting a hardon through viewing some porn and maintaining it whilst trying to have sex is a different matter.
Especially after straining the whole day away playing Warcraft and getting enraged.

[iargue]

Last time I checked, getting a hardon through viewing some porn and maintaining it whilst trying to have sex is a different matter.
Especially after straining the whole day away playing Warcraft and getting enraged.

Maybe your just not man enough.... J/k.


I'm sorry, but if you find Warcraft straining, you need to get better at games And if there is a pussy out on the room, your should have a tent until it goes away. (Unless its just a hideous site)

[Elindoril]

Last time I checked, getting a hardon through viewing some porn and maintaining it whilst trying to have sex is a different matter.
Especially after straining the whole day away playing Warcraft and getting enraged.

How can you strain yourself playing Warcraft? The game takes no energy whatsoever.

And if you're having trouble maintaining an erection during sex, you might need some help.

[luvsmyncis]

That's why there's once daily Cialis.

[Mr. Hobo]

That's why there's once daily Cialis.

These spam bots are getting crafty

[Metigue]

A bucket of twizzlers has no sentimental value whatsoever.

And my friend went to NY and brought some of those back, they were honestly just plastic tbh no flavour whatsoever.

[Elindoril]

A bucket of twizzlers has no sentimental value whatsoever.

Going to the jewelery store and picking up some random and expensive ring or necklace just because the shallow bitch thinks she deserves one isn't that great either.

[cowsgraze]

Going to the jewelery store and picking up some random and expensive ring or necklace just because the shallow bitch thinks she deserves one isn't that great either.

Much WORSE than twizzlers. You see, not only did her boyfriend get her the gift of candy, he got her the gift of attention (which she probably thinks she needs). She got her own little FML box, and three pages of responses on neocodex. Infact, I bet you a quarter or it's weight in deodorant that she is reading this thread over and over again right now

[jarviscocker]

Elindoril - +1.

For real. I don't know why value is so important... I mean, yes. Twizzlers are perishable and one time use items... while a ring is a life long thing... but I guess that's just a common difference in gender. I find that generally, males can appreciate one time use items.... while females are more apt to desire things that they can look at and be reminded... Who knows really... I kind of see the girls point... but I think she's taking shit a bit too seriously, really.

i promise this is really not a gender difference. i think it's more a personality thing. i know more girls who'd want the bucket of twizzlers over rings, while most of the dudes i know are into romantic dinners and cuff links and shit. this is probably because i'm friends with artsy/weird chicks, and preppy/sporty guys. not to say preppy dudes can't be unconventional, or a girl majoring in painting can't prefer necklaces to candy, but most of the time it's pretty much as expected.

also i'm uh, sort of a stereotypical raging feminist so i tend to get a bit carried away in my rantings sometimes lol.

[iargue]

Elindoril - +1.

For real. I don't know why value is so important... I mean, yes. Twizzlers are perishable and one time use items... while a ring is a life long thing... but I guess that's just a common difference in gender. I find that generally, males can appreciate one time use items.... while females are more apt to desire things that they can look at and be reminded... Who knows really... I kind of see the girls point... but I think she's taking shit a bit too seriously, really.

Thats because we grew up understanding the important of condoms.

i promise this is really not a gender difference. i think it's more a personality thing. i know more girls who'd want the bucket of twizzlers over rings, while most of the dudes i know are into romantic dinners and cuff links and shit. this is probably because i'm friends with artsy/weird chicks, and preppy/sporty guys. not to say preppy dudes can't be unconventional, or a girl majoring in painting can't prefer necklaces to candy, but most of the time it's pretty much as expected.

also i'm uh, sort of a stereotypical raging feminist so i tend to get a bit carried away in my rantings sometimes lol.

Since when would an artist want candy over a ring? Rings are more beautiful. And since when did preppy/sporty guys like romantic dinners?